— Yasmin Mogahed
Growing up as a young Muslim nowadays, you just have to be real. Sometimes you really have to sit and ask yourself if your faith is your top priority. if it’s not, then something has gotta change. Because when pleasing your creator is your top priority, then everything else falls right into place.
It’s been almost 9 months I lived in the land of Khilafah. I would like to share few things - not to brag out nor I think I’m better than any of you. Just a small sharing.
I wont lie by saying that my life is perfect and stress-free. Indeed, trials and tribulations are promised to everyone, especially for those whose claim to love Him - the test is double in amount. But I can say, Allāh put such contentment in your heart that no matter how severe the test is - you’ll always find strength to keep moving and not to despair.
My hardest time was when I first arrived in Shaam. I kept thinking about my parents and family. Came from a solid-bond family, it was never easy to leave them without notice. I knew it was the hardest and darkest time for my parents, especially my mother. I was in such extend of anxiety if she got heart-arrest when she knew that I have left her.
To be honest, I’m very close to her. She still fed me and I’ll sleep only by her side. My mother always ask me - how I will ever get married and moved out, it seemed almost impossible because our attachment was too strong. So was my father, as soon he arrived at home after Isha’, I will always nag him and pull his leg.
Such memories killed me in the beginning. My eyes were dry, but my heart was so much in pain and it bleed each and everytime the memory strikes.
I remember, one day I couldn’t bear the heart ache and I began to weep on my friend’s lap. She sang “Sabran Ya Nafsi” and gave me piece of advice that I shall never forget.
"You choose to separate in this world, so know that your Lord wont forsake you with another separation in the hereafter."
Al Hamdulillah as time goes by, my parents begin to understand that I will never return. They swallow the bitter-truth fact even it paralyzes their heart. May Allāh grant them the lofty rank of Jannah for their patience and may Allāh give them such heart to endure the pain that caused by me.
To live amongst people that differ from you - e.g language, background, lifestyle and etc is not always fascinating.
But Al Hamdulillah - I never had any problem so far. Every sister that I have met are amazing. They love and care for you purely for the sake of Allāh.
I remember how they treated me when I first arrived in Shaam. Language wasn’t a barrier when you have such a beautiful Deen that connects the hearts of the Believers. Everytime my husband is away, the sisters come over my place and offered me to stay with them till my husband returns (Bi ithnillah).
So much love that I can’t even describe by words. Indeed, Allāh replaces every loss with something greater. He took away my blood-and-flesh family, and replaces it with Deen-and-Tawheed sisters.
I’m personally an introvert and I don’t like to spend time with others, but things may get changed once you’re here. The chances for you to transform into someone better is very high (In sha Allāh).
Sometimes, my husband will be away for so long and I have to get groceries for my self. I remember there were period of time I would go alone to the market.
During my first trimester, I had severe fatigue, and walking for five minutes was such a big challenge for me. I remember once I almost passed out in the crowd, so I sat by the shop-lot to gain some strength. An old man who sat not too far away from me, came and offered me his chair. Later he brought me something to eat (a pear).
In another incident, I wanted to buy something buy I do not know how to bargain. A stranger (an Ansari woman) bargained the price for me.
One of the prominent incident I can’t forget is when I had some crisis - where I didn’t get the groceries supply from Dawla about two months (later it was explained why) and I had no cash at that time and I heard no news of my husband.
My friend and I contacted few British Muhajirah, and they came from far away just to help us - with boxes of grocery stuffs and junk foods. (I love you for the sake of Allāh Umm Fariss!).
Another hardest part is being away from your husband for so long especially during special occasion e.g Eid.
But Al Hamdulillah - khair In sha Allāh.
My nine months in the land of Shaam has taught me to become someone different than who I was before. I learnt to share, and to tolerate. I’m nobody here and I begin to spend money wisely. I have learnt not to be selfish and to respect others’ feeling.
Indeed, the land of Khilafah is the land of Tarbiyaat.
Our life isn’t always wonderful, but it’s such a beautiful life to live in Darl-ul Islam.
People don’t mock at you just because you’re wearing Niqab. They respect and honor you. People take your advice and don’t tell you not to judge them. When they see you commit an err, they advice you with love. People around you often reminds you of Allāh.
At times you will forget that you’re living in the millennium era. It feels like you are living in a chapter of the book of Sirah.
Bird Of Jannah, Syria.
mashaAllah i love your story❤️
“Every son of Adam sins, and the best of those who sin are those who repent.”
- The Prophet [Tirmidhi]
Who told you this life would be easy?
Who told you that temptations would be simple to avoid?
Who told you that people wouldn’t test your patience?
Who told you that wouldn’t have to fight for what you love?
Nothing will stop our challenges from coming.
But Islam will always give us the best way to deal with them.
Anonymous said: Salam. I have a problem - I worry ALL the time about religion. Whenever I have a spare moment, I find myself thinking about religion, going over topics of discussion, racking myself, asking whether as Muslims we're just a bunch of hypocrites who quote the Prophet to feel good, and that none of us could really stomach Islam as it really is. And I find myself thinking - maybe if I stopped being religious, I'd just stop worrying all the time.
Wa alykum as-salaam,
Stop worrying. God is awesome. Islam is chill.
Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, probably the most well-known scholar today, wrote:
"Islam is a practical religion, it does not float in the stratosphere of imaginary ideals but remains with the human being on the ground of realities and day-to-day concerns.
It does not regard people as angels but accepts them as mortals who eat food and walk in the marketplace. Islam does not require of Muslims that their speech should consist entirely of pious utterances, that their silence should be a meditation, that they should listen to nothing except the recitation of the Qur’an, nor that they should spend all their leisure time om the mosque.
Rather, it recognizes that Allah has created human beings with needs and desires, so that, as they need to eat and drink, they also need to relax, and to enjoy themselves.”
In the Hadith Collection of Imam Muslim we have the following in which Hanzalah al-Usaidi, narrated about himself:
"Abu Bakr met me and asked, ‘How are you, Hanzalah?’
I replied, ‘Hanzalah has becomea hypocrite.’
He said, ‘Subhanallah! What are you saying?’
I replied, ‘When we are with God’s Messenger (peace be on him), he mentions the Fire and the Garden until it is as if we can see them. But when we leave The Prophet’s company and play with our wives and children or busy ourselves with our properties, we forget much.’
Abu Bakr said, ‘By God, I have experienced the same thing.’
He and I then went to visit The Messenger of God (peace be on him), and I said, ‘O Messenger of God, Hanzalah has become a hypocrite.’
He asked, ‘And how is that?’
I replied, ‘O Messenger of God, when we are with you, you talk about the Fire and the Garden until it is as if we can see them. Then we go out and play with our wives and children and deal with
our properties, and we forget much.’
The Messenger of God (peace be on him) then said, ‘By Him in Whose Hand is my soul, if you were to continue at the same level at which you were when with me and in remembering God, the angels would shake hands with you when you are resting and when you walk about, but, O Hanzalah, there is a time (for this) and a time (for that).’ He repeated this phrase three times.”
Furthermore, Ali ibn Abu Talib, addressing the issue of leisure, said: “Minds get tired, as do bodies, so treat them with humor,” and “Refresh your minds from time to time, for a tired mind becomes blind.”
Another story of The Prophet, found in Shamail al Muhammadiyyah of Imam Tirmidhi reports the following:
"…an old woman came to Rasulullah [SAW] and made a request [asked]: ‘O Messenger of Allah, make Dua that Allah grants me entrance into Jannah.’
Rasulullah [SAW] replied, ‘O Mother, an old woman cannot enter Jannah.’
That woman started crying and began to leave. Rasulullah [SAW] said, ‘Say to the woman that one will not enter in a state of old age, but Allah will make all the women of Jannah young virgins. Allah Ta’ala says, “Lo! We have created them a (new) creation and made them virgins, lovers, equal in age.’” [56:35-37]”
This was a joke from The Prophet. The fact that he did this is underlined by the following Hadith, narrated in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad (among other places):
Abu Hurayra reported that the people said, “Messenger of God, you joke with us!” He replied, “But I only speak the truth.”
Finally, Imam Abu Hanifa, underlined that humor was not something alien to Muslims, let alone people of knowledge:
A man came to Imam Abu Hanifa and asked: “if I take off my clothes and bathe in the river should I face the qibla or another direction?”
Imam Abu Hanifa replied: “it’s best to face the direction of your clothes just in case they get stolen.”
All these super religious people joked around, they had lives, they chilled, they cared about their families, and so I don’t think you are giving yourself a fair shake. Relax a little bit, and maybe talk to a counselor, it might help, but I don’t think it’s about “being religious” because I doubt you’d put these fears away by ignoring them. The reality is that you have a view of Islam that is unnecessarily strict (on yourself) so please, relax and rest knowing that God is Merciful.
I hope this helps, insha Allah.
Anonymous said: I really need help first from Allah! I know Allah WILL forgive me and us, and despairing in His mercy is a sin! But that's not the issue, my problem is will I STOP sinning! Time and time again I find myself commiting that same sin I repented from! I just can't take myself doing this anymore !! Why do I keep doing it! Please pray for me! Please pray Allah forgives me and guides me! I know I am my own problem and only I am to blame promise I honestly get that I just feel like hitting myself &worse
Many times we can use sin as a means of preventing us moving forward, out of a fear of failing should we get past the stage we’re in, so we settle for staying where we are, which is comfortable only in that it is familiar.
You just have to constantly return to God, don’t stop, keep repenting no matter what:
It was said to [The Prophet’s grandson] Al-Hassan: ”Is not the servant [of God] ashamed of sinning and then repenting, and then sinning again and then again repenting?”
He [Al-Hassan] said: “Satan wants exactly that. Never stop making repentance.” [Ibn Rajab, Jami’ Al-Ulum]
You have to remind yourself of God’s Promise, as mentioned by The Prophet:
“There is nothing that you leave out of God-consciousness [taqwa] except that God will compensate you with something better” [Ahmad]
Strive towards doing what is correct, even if it is difficult, even if its scary, just remind yourself:
“Grieve not: verily, God is with us.” [9:40]
Every time you are afraid. Every time you are nervous. Every time you have knots in your stomach. Every time your heart hurts, remember, God is with you.
Don’t doubt God will be there for you when you want to be better, when you want to emerge from your past mistakes, from your procrastination, for God says in a Hadith Qudsi:
"O son of Adam, I do not forget the person who disobeys Me, so how can I forget someone who obeys Me?"
It all starts with your first step.
You asked me
“Who is Allah?”
as though you never saw
I looked upwards and said:
"He is the One who paints
the sky in various colors,
Who draws the sun and the moon
wherever and whenever He wants,
The One who dabs them
together with the stars
to perfect constellations.”
"He is Al-Hasib, The Sufficient
The One Who takes account
of the galaxy and you.”
Renungan dari Ali bin Abu Thalib :
"Aku khawatir terhadap suatu masa yang rodanya dapat menggilas keimanan. Keyakinan hanya tinggal PEMIKIRAN yang tidak berbekas PERBUATAN.
Ada orang baik tapi tidak berakal, ada orang berakal tapi tidak beriman. Ada yang berlisan fasih namun berhati lalai, ada yang khusyu’ namun sibuk dalam kesendirian. Ada ahli ibadah tapi mewarisi kesombongan iblis, ada ahli maksiyat tapi rendah hati bagaikan sufi..
Ada yang banyak tertawa hingga hatinya berkarat, ada yang banyak menangis karena kufur nikmat. Ada yang murah senyum tapi hatinya mengumpat, ada yang hatinya tulus tapi wajahnya cemberut.
Ada yang berlisan bijak tapi tidak memberi teladan, ada juga penzina yang tampil sebagai figur panutan. Ada yang punya ilmu tapi tidak paham, ada yang paham ilmu tapi tidak mengamalkannya…
Ada juga yang pintar tapi tukang membodohi umat, ada yang bodoh malah sok pintar. Ada yang beragama tapi tidak berakhlak, ada yang berakhlak tapi tidak bertuhan…
Lalu diantara semua itu, dimana aku berada? “